This is a big day…for those of us who grew up in shadows, hiding our desires and feeling like criminals for acting on them. The shame of desire, the social orphan pariah…to have come out of the shadows, into the light of recognition and to have come even this far with the rulings on DOMA and Proposition 8 is nothing short of a miracle.
But I point to this as being a big day not for the actual decisions, but for the direction in which it is now pointing us. As far as I’ve been able to read the opinions of the court, there is still a lot of gray area. In fact, I feel as if the court has squarely kicked the ball back to us the people and in particular to faith communities. WE need to figure this out. There is no amount of legislation or “legaleze” that will transform people’s hearts.
So the real work must begin. Lay people, faith leaders, communities, must now come together and have real conversations about how to live peacefully and supportively of each other. I encourage you to have the tough conversations with each other, but first have the conversation with yourself to ask, not just what you believe, but how do your beliefs play out in a world that is built on love and not fear. How do you love someone…and I don’t mean love the person/hate the sin, because being LGBTQ is not a sin…I mean how do you genuinely love someone through their difference from you?
May it be so.