Several years ago I basically dropped off of social media. I needed to do this for my sanity. I had entered into parish ministry and although I’ve long been an advocate of ministers engaging in social media, I found that the algorithms that allow social media to be such a boon for some were becoming deeply toxic for me. For whatever reason, the algorithms picked up on the extraordinary amount of loss of friends and colleagues in my life and it decided that I wanted to see and hear nothing but news and information about death and dying. Every time I opened a different app, the news at the top of the feed was about death; advertisements were about therapy and loss, it became overwhelming.
So I left.
Well, I’m going to make something of a comeback for 2023. I realize now that part of what made it so hard was the technology but more importantly part of the challenge was how I was receiving what the technology was giving me. While functioning in “parish minister mode”, I felt like it was my responsibility to answer to all of the death and dying that kept coming my way. Granted, part of this is just who I am as a result of my upbringing (which is a whole other story) I’m someone who always feels responsible. Yet, what has come clear to me since leaving the parish in August and launching into an entirely new phase of academic study and diving deep into my intellectual thoughts is that the world isn’t my fault! Who knew?
I’m not alone. Ministers of all stripes regularly talk about self care and boundaries and intention, but we rarely actually do anything about any of it. Too often, most of us spend much of our time feeling like the world is our fault. Regardless of our personal theologies we take on this mountain of responsibility and then have no clue as to what to do with it. This is part of why I’m coming back ‘online’. I realized that I’ve got some stuff to share that could help my colleagues and others who are part of the vast network of caregivers, support, pastoral ears, etc. who all feel like the world is our fault.
Over the next couple of months, I will relaunch my official website. Nothing extravagant or super fancy (shout out and deep gratitude to the folks at DEV especially Rachel!) but a place where I can be found besides this blog. I plan to also produce content here and in other platforms that will take a more pointed look at what sits behind the word “Spirituwellness”. My hope is to return to some of my roots. I embarked on ministry and started this blog because being a healer of bodies (massage therapy, fitness, Reiki) wasn’t quite enough. I wanted to engage people around what they felt gave their lives meaning. With five years of pastoral training and five years in the field, plus my prior studies and work with embodiment, I feel ready now to actually do what I intended from the beginning.
I’m also planning to test the waters of podcasting. I’ve always loved the interview/conversation format and with some new tools I will be acquiring this month, I think its time. All of this to say, look for me again on Instagram, LinkedIn and (ugh) Twitter. I may even poke my head out on Facebook again (maybe a little Soundcloud and YouTube as well). I’m giving social media a second chance. See you again soon in the new year!
2 thoughts on “Comeback”
I was wondering what happened to you. That is called, “missing you.” But you knew that, right? I get this, what you are saying. It gets to be too much, as it manifests in me *crying* every single day. I’m excited to hear more as your plans unfold and would love to figure out how our journeys might intertwine a bit more frequently. Happy new year, Adam! Sending love, admiration and good vibes!
From one embodiment-focused, social-media-resistant minister to another, I’m looking forward to reading more! (And also continuing the process of accepting that “the world isn’t my fault.”) Thank you, dear friend.